Sunday, 24 June 2012
Ex-es...Past, Present, Future
Most people seems to be amazed that I could actually stay friends with my ex-es. My question is...Why not?? Their question is...How the h*ll?
To me, it's simple. The main reason I get into a relationship is because I can relate to someone on a physical, emotional and mental level...someone I could call a friend, a mentor and a lover. If things don't work out on a lover level, it's okay. We can stay friends and be each other's mentor. Lets face it, there really is no happiness in forcing each other to stay together for the sake of...anything! If I get to a roadblock, I speak to him. Not shout, speak. If he feels the same way like I do, it's best we move on with our lives looking for things that would make us both happy. I would be lying if I said it was easy. It ain't. But the thing is, I know that short moment of pain will give me the freedom to be happy for a long period of time. I will definitely bare that pain.
Feelings might often be in the way, those deja vu moments, glimpse of places you've been together, belongings of each other in your possession etc. but ultimately, there's no point in dragging the past to the future if they are not willing to follow. Believe in yourself that you could always find someone who could be your friend, mentor AND lover. It is not easy but sometimes the grass is really greener on the other side. Don't settle for less but settle for what you are happy with...and I am sure no one would be happy with less.
Personally, I do not want to loose a friend and/or a mentor just because we couldn't proceed as lovers. It would be such a waste! Have respect to yourself by appreciating the fact that YOU chose that person to be your lover. If you are filled with hate and disgust towards him, doesn't it reflect upon YOU that YOU made the bad choice? Don't regret...always look on the bright side and learn from mistakes. That is how you gain experience and squeeze more juice out from the lemons of your life to make quality lemonades =)